Diapers don’t and should not define you.  They are merely a part of your life – one single part.  Once you realize that then you can start helping yourself.  There are so many things that define you and diapers are merely one part.  Everyone is unique in their own way and you should not let one or two things define your self-worth.  People are going to judge you every day of your life unfortunately and once you learn to not care so much what others think too much you can also start to help yourself.  You are BEAUTIFUL inside and out.  There are a lot of things out there 100 times worse what you could be doing such as drugs, drinking, etc.  Diapers can be a positive aspect of your life if you let it and don’t feel guilty for it being part of your life.  Where you can get yourself into trouble I have found is when you start letting it affect your social life and encompassing your thoughts.

Answer this question to yourself…do you find yourself wanting to stay in on a Friday or Saturday night so you can just wear diapers and mess around in them instead of going out with friends or something social?  If your answer to this is “yes” then you may need to reevaluate how you are handling the diaper aspect of your life.  You do not want to let something like this consume your life and keep you from being social and keep you from your relationships.  All these things have an effect on your sense of well being and confidence.

Life is just too short to beat yourself up over your looks or little nuances that you think are so different then everybody else.  Everybody has quirky things about them, not weird – but quirky.  Because what I define as weird could be totally different then what somebody else does.  But, quirky is a universal term where whatever it is could be “different” but not weird.  Different is a subjective term also but most people can define “different” from “weird” in their own mind.  The fact is, everybody has their quirks and how you choose to view your quirks whether it is diapers or anything else can have an impact on your self-worth and confidence.  So, starting today – take a look at yourself and find the positives in your life and start looking at your quirky things as something that defines you as unique rather than different.  Put a positive spin on it and be confident in yourself that God made you unique and you have a purpose.  You are beautiful inside and out…so be confident in yourself!

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I just cannot tell you how proud I am to be part of the adult diaper community.  Yes, there are those that really do bring down this community sometimes but overall I am proud to be part of this community.  In my opinion, we are unique and there is no other community out there like the adult babies and diaper lover community.  You ever get that feeling when you are home alone in maybe just a thick diaper and t-shirt and you walk by the mirror and notice that perfect little “pouch” in the butt of your diaper…you know what I am talking about.  It gives you that real babyish feeling and comforting feeling.  At least for me it does.  And, it just causes a rush of emotions.  It just got me thinking just of how proud I am to be part of this community and how great it is.  Cheesy…I know but its the truth.

There are so many times before I go out with friends that I just get excited about what I am going to wear that night and which diaper I am going to choose…this doesn’t happen all the time but it does happen when I get in those moods.  I cherish those moments.  I guess this is one of those “intelligent” moments I am having where I am trying to articulate somehow what I’m feeling and its not working to well…lol.  Hopefully, some of you catch on to what I am meaning and can make sense of it in your head.  I guess I have sort of strayed from the original title of this article.  But, I was reading over some of the boards lately – just browsing – and you read some idiotic statements and then you read some really calm, intelligent, and concise postings and you wonder who is on the other side of that post because its insightful and intelligent.  I am one who can appreciate those people that manage to maintain such civility in the conversations in the adult baby community because I feel it adds credibility – maybe not so much to outsiders – but to those who can appreciate others acting mature and truly trying to engage in a conversation and make friends and be nice.  There are so many people out there that I feel would be better off if they just tried to act more mature, control their hormones, and act semi-intelligent when they talk and they may just meet some truly nice people and actually make friends.  I am not trying to be mean at all…I just get emails all the time asking what someone can do to meet other people and I am not passing judgment on those in particular people that email me but I know for a fact that some of them have to be these same people posting on these adult baby forums in rude, unintelligible, and narcissistic ways and I just can’t help but think that if they just lightened up a little and acted a tiny bit more mature they may have a chance of making a real connection with someone if that is what they want (maybe that isn’t what they want?).

But, that isn’t to say the intelligent people don’t come without their flaws too.  With intelligence comes that paranoia because they actually CARE who is on the other side of that computer rather than the words on the screen.  So, they are always thinking about who they are truly talking to.  They start questioning every statement, analyzing it, and trying to make offhand judgments based on the words on a screen.  You may think to yourself…well aren’t I judging those adult baby members that talk unintelligible?  No, I don’t judge so much on the words but more than attitudes in those words.  There are some people that don’t exactly type or write very well but you can tell what they really mean and their attitude through what they type…you can see the benevolence in their writings.  But, anyways the intelligent people question everything…as did I along time ago…now I just don’t care.  If you don’t want to prove to me who you are – fine I don’t care.  If you want to lie about who you are to me – that is your free will and I can play along with that if I have time at the moment because it can be entertaining sometimes.  I am not going to get all worked up if someone wants to lie to me about themselves.  I have everything I want in life on the other side of this screen – a loving husband, a home, great parents, great friends, diapers, and more – I don’t feel  the need to judge others and waste my time tracking down who is being honest and who isn’t.  Its unfortunate that goes on in this community but I suppose its a necessity because there are so many people that aren’t truthful about who they are.

Anyways, I know this post is long but its just me trying to articulate things that I think make up a big part of our community and that which makes us so unique.  I will say this – neither group is wrong in my opinion for how they act – they balance the community.  All that I can suggest to the adult baby and diaper lover community that may help us all is to the rude, unintelligible and mean people…maybe try to be a “tiny” bit more mature in your conversations and think about what you say before you blurt it out.  And to those intelligent people out there…maybe just try to tone down the paranoia a bit and enjoy the adult baby and diaper lover community more instead of looking at everyone with a detective eye like someone is out to get you.  Overall, everyone just get along

I am done rambling for the night and I am sure everyone is probably either like wow that was really well thought out or some of you may be like “wtf” or what in the world just happened…lol all views are understandable.  Just in one of those creative typing moods I guess…now that I think about it – it sort of is that time of the month for me – maybe its the hormones making me a bit extra creative?

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You can argue with me and make yourselves feel better all day long until you are blue in the face but the fact is that sites that ACTIVELY advertise themselves as conversational forums for younger than 18 (teenagers) are wrong in this day and age and ESPECIALLY for the ABDL community.  Of course I am referring to ADISC – who blatantly caters to the ‘younger’ crowd which in MY opinion is wrong…if you want to argue, trust me you are wasting your breath.  Now, some people will say but sites like DailyDiapers has teenagers on it as well – which you are CORRECT.  BUT, there is a big difference – DailyDiapers does not cater nor actively advertises themselves or is known for hosting younger than 18 year old content whether it is discussion, photos, etc.  That is a big difference whether you like it or not.

Everyone is correct in saying that older people will sometimes say they are younger and younger people will lie and say they are older just to gain access or what not to a forum.  That is the internet, unfortunately.  But, the difference comes from a site that caters and harbors that and a site that does not.  There in lies my problem with sites like ADISC…of course, people are around that age don’t understand that yet and appreciate a place like that but don’t fully comprehend the dangers that can occur there both illegally and morally.  Not to mention it CAN make bad press for the ABDL community.

So where do teenagers that wear diapers or what not fit into the whole ABDL community online?  Good question…because I honestly have no idea.  I recognize they need a place for support but I don’t condone sites that actively harbor content on the internet that are geared to underage people in the ABDL content…period.  There are too many risks, liabilities, etc etc.  Maybe, it is the materal instinct in me that I feel so strongly about this – I have no idea but I just think its wrong.  It only takes one bad apple in a forum to cause some really terrible things and sites that promote themselves actively for teenagers to converse in an adult baby type context are just breeding grounds for something bad to happen.  Maybe, nothing bad as ever happened from a site like ADISC or maybe it has?  Maybe you haven’t heard about it? Does that matter whether you have or haven’t? Do you want to take that risk?  These are questions you should be considering.  Of course, there are a few other sites similar to ADISC, but it is just one of the bigger ones.

I am sure there will be some backlash from this post like there always is both here and on there site.  I am sure they will say the same old thing about me as they always do and that is fine…it becomes comical to me that some of them actually think I care or it affects me.  As always, I say what I feel and I am forward – you don’t like it – well that’s fine.  Facts are facts…places that in anyway cater to those under the age of 18 years old especially in the context of something like ABDLism – will only be a matter of time if it already hasn’t happened that something regrettable, unfortunate, and disgusting will happen.  Bring on the arguments

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Understanding a diaper lover really isn’t that hard if you can keep an open mind and be non-judgmental.  The key to understanding is letting go of preconceptions and be more open-minded and willing to understand.  The average diaper lover does not wear diapers or “fixate” on diapers for sexual reasons but merely an object that calms or relaxes them.  I know, personally, that even being incontinent – putting on a diaper has a overwhelming relaxation effect on me and calming effect.  This bodes true for many other diapers lovers.  They are not looking to harm anyone or interfere with other people’s lives.  They do want others to understand and not look at them like a freak.

A diaper lover by him/herself is separate from an adult baby.  Some diaper lovers are adult babies and some are strictly just diaper lovers (DL’s).  A diaper lover merely just likes the act of wearing diapers or participating in diapers while an adult baby enjoys a lot of the “processes” and activities behind acting like a baby outside of diapers.  Many diaper lovers usually have some sort of percentage or degree of “adult babyism” in them.

A diaper lover can be your best friend, a coworker, a boss, governor, doctor, attorney, etc.  You would just never know it because diaper lovers are typically more discreet than an adult baby.  What if you found out your best friend of 20 years wore diapers?  Would you automatically classify him as a freak or would you be a lot more understanding an it not be as big of a deal?  Well, that is how the average diaper lover wants to be looked at from an understanding perspective – they want you to understand them the same way you would if you found out a best friend wore diapers – more respect, more understanding, and more care rather than automatic judgments.

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1. Bambino Diapers:  The best probably adult baby and diaper lover company on the market.  They specifically and actively gear their products to the ABDL community and all their products are high quality.  They probably came up with the official and most popular true “adult baby diaper”.
2. ABUniverse: Another actively ABDL specific adult baby and diaper lover business gearing many of their products towards ABDLs.  While not as popular due to their history of poor customer service, not as high quality of products, and high prices – the variety they offer appeals to many that are willing to pay top dollar for more of the look.
3. Secure Personal Care: They actively advertise in the ABDL network but their products website gears towards the incontinence community.  But, don’t let that fool you because their products are one of the most absorbent on the market and they have a really good selection of adult diapers in different absorbency levels.  Their Secure X-Plus is famous for being super comfortable and highly absorbent in the ABDL community.
4. XPMedical: This site carries a large variety of incontinence products and is active in the ABDL community.  They carry a lot of adult diapers than many ABDLs associate with as well as they are very ABDL aware and friendly.

Those are the main sites I have had experience with that are very ABDL aware and friendly when it comes to ordering and I am sure there may be a few others but these are in my experience and from what I have seen.  I think it is important to support all these companies because they are what runs the adult baby and diaper lover community in allowing many of us to use great products instead of using the same old products such as Depends and Attends.  These companies provide a great service to the adult baby and diaper lover community and I feel they should ALL be supported.  If you haven’t tried ordering from one of these – you definitely should give them a shot.  If you are looking for good prices on the most absorbent adult diapers on the market go with Secure Personal Care’s Secure X-Plus Adult Diaper or Bambino Diapers or you could try XPMedical….if you are looking for more of just the look of baby diapers and willing to pay a very high price for the look but lower quality and lower absorbency then give ABUniverse a try.

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• Bambino Diapers
• Abena X-Plus
• Secure X-Plus
• ABUniverse Diapers

Unfortunately, many of the adult diaper manufacturers have started manufacturing their diapers without the ABDL community in mind leaving only a very select few of good adult diapers for the ABDL community to use and even the incontinence community. Attends was once an amazingly absorbent diaper that was soft, thick, and comfortable. Now, they rank up there with depends absorbency (poor) and their comfort is also poor in comparison to what it used to be. More and more adult diaper manufacturers are competing for the “quietness” factor by switching their adult diapers to cloth like outer coverings. This is much to the dismay of adult babies and diaper lovers as many of them like that plastic outer covering which is actually more expensive to manufacture than cloth (cloth is cheaper to manufacture). Even brands like Molicare have created the “breathable” adult diapers which essentially has less padding on the wings which means less absorption unfortunately. What all this points to is a competitiveness for incontinence users that HAVE TO wear diapers rather than those who enjoy the feel of an adult diaper. After all the incontinence community is much larger than the adult baby and diaper lover community.

The competition within the adult baby and diaper lover community for adult diapers is heating up. The main competitors that have come forward consist of:

While there are other major brands such as Molicare, Tranquility, and Attends…they are not actively competing for anywhere remotely the stock of popularity within the ABDL community. Each diaper manufacturer has some huge strengths and some weaknesses…some more glaring than others but nonetheless, they are each competing in some form for popularity. Here are some strengths of each company:

• Bambino Diapers: Known to be the most absorbent adult diaper on the market as well as the softest inner-lining. Phenomenal customer support. Very focused on their reputation and producing flawless diapers. Using cutting-edge materials to add better absorbency, comfort, and softness. VERY focused towards providing products for the ABDL community.
• Abena X-Plus: Known as one of thickest adult diapers because of the added fluff they add to their diapers. Great absorbency. Good customer support. Products readily available in stores. Serious tape problems is their only downside. Their tapes are known for not staying on and popping off easily.
• Secure X-Plus: Similar to the Bambino Diapers features in many aspects. Super high absorbency, almost as absorbent as bambino diapers. Soft and comfortable. Geared towards providing the best adult diapers specifically to the incontinence community.
• ABUniverse (Diapers and Products): Many products geared towards the ABDL community. Trying to create more products on a regular basis. Customer support problems. Good absorbency. Very focused towards the ABDL community with providing a lot of products the ABDL community. Shipping delays can sometimes be an issue with them depending on the time. Prices extremely high. But, you have to give them credit because they are trying to support the ABDL community even if their products are not on the same level as the other companies/products.

Competition is good and should be welcomed because it only makes the companies try to produce better and better products. Its unfortunate that there are really only a few big guns in the adult diaper industry that gear towards the ABDL community. The four companies listed above seem pretty geared towards sticking with plastic-backed diapers (a main staple in the ABDL community) which is a lot more than many other diaper companies can say as they have switched to cloth or are using cheaper materials. I would say Bambino Diapers is the front runner as far as the best adult diaper on the market in regards to features, absorbency, and technology used in their adult diapers…but Abena and Secure are close behind. ABUniverse is competing well especially with their new Cushy diaper but their problem is they don’t have the same absorbency (less absorbent) as the other diaper companies and their price is still too high as well as features are lacking from ABUniverse products. But, hopefully as time grows each company continues to get better and furthers the adult diaper competitiveness in both the incontinence and ABDL market.

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The reality of the internet is that there will always be guys posing as women on the internet no matter what community you are associated with.  But, it really is unfortunate for the ABDL community because the fact is that there are a lot of women into the adult baby and diaper lover topic but are either scared off from the community or completely blasted because they don’t reveal their whole life to a male or even another female right off the bat.  I understand the skepticism when it comes to making sure it is a woman on the other end but on some level there should be an understanding of trust and gradual progression.

The reality is that most people in this community will start talking to a girl in the ABDL community and almost immediately start asking them for photos, videos, etc.  Which, some girls don’t have problems with that and some do and the level of photo “showage” will vary between girls.  Some will show their face and some will show just their lower half or whatever.  But, the first thing wrong here is that guys start out with these questions first before even getting into any sort of meaningful conversation.  Its almost like some men are just after photos of women in diapers just to please themselves (not all guys mind you); When most girls are just looking for conversation and true friends online.

Some people have no problem being completely open in the adult baby and diaper lover community but some don’t and would prefer using only bits and pieces of their true life in order to remain somewhat anonymous.  This is where understanding comes into play.  Girls and even some guys would be more apt to share more if people would be more conversative and understanding rather than so forward and aggressive.

I will probably regret this later but I will share my experience…Me being a incontinent girl that wears diapers all day, everyday, really enjoys the ABDL community and loves engaging in conversations that are meaningful and would love to meet people that are actually semi-intelligent and have lives that don’t revolve around everything diaper related.  Of course, in the beginning, I was unsure of the ABDL community when I first got involved and I was not very forward with anything and I didn’t reveal much about myself besides being a girl.  I tried to protect myself by remaining anonymous in the terms of not using my real name.  But, as I got more comfortable I started sharing more and realizing the community can be an awesome place.  I started slowly feeling more comfortable revealing things about myself and giving more and more.  Eventually, starting I Heart Diapers, and I became even more comfortable revealing things within limits.  I give as much true factual information about myself to the point where I feel comfortable knowing I can remain semi-anonymous so that it would not affect my career/life outside of the adult baby and diaper lover world.  I am active in the community, I have dozens of photos all through out my blog showing basically everything except my facial features.  I mean, with all of that, even so much as showing my boobs area and such – people still to this day question that I am a girl, LOL.  Its almost laughable at this point and you learn to ignore it.  I mean I get crucified by some people in this community because I don’t show my face…I mean get over yourself…not all of us are in that position in our lives to risk everything by flaunting your face in front of everyone in association with the ABDL community.

Unfortunately, all the suspicion has caused girls to barely even be able to talk to other girls because of the doubt that exists and is present in the community because there is always this “doubt”.  Unless you are willing to shake your bum on webcam or take a photo with your face smiling with a big wet diaper and a handwritten sign saying “This is so and so…” then there is not much trust unfortunately and any sort of relationship outside of fantasy land is basically not possible because the relationship online can’t get past that barrier because no one wants to participate in the conversation unless what I said happens first.

People in the adult baby and diaper lover community just need to recognize that at least with me – I will always be somewhat shielded because I have a successful life outside of the ABDL community and I protect that.  I will divulge more and what not if I actually were to meet you or have a good friendship.

To make a long story short and to sum up – understand is that there are tons of women in the diaper community and they aren’t going to be as open as you want them to be at first with you.  Just like on a first date, things are awkward and unsure, and you just have to give the person the benefit of the doubt and not act accusatory to them otherwise there will be no hope in any sort of meaningful relationship.

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The ABDL world is first looked at in a negative light and associated with kids unfortunately. An outsider looking in automatically is going to associate diapers with kids and while this is unfortunate, it is understandable. What is not understandable and unacceptable in my mind is those people who enhance this image by engaging in activities that will only further this view. While I understand there are always bad apples in any group, I don’t think it does us justice when there are a whole lot of “borderline” apples that engage in forums and chat alongside or with people that are under the age of 18. I think this is wrong and however innocent it may be in many cases, it is not in many other cases. Unfortunately sites such as ADISC, while providing a decent community, is filled with underage kids as well as teenbabies and adult diaper lovers and babies. This setup is a breeding ground for disaster but also is not a good look for the ABDL community. The site basically is an invitation to anyone with a computer and internet connection to come “innoncently” talk to underage people about diapers…this in my mind is wrong and breeds negativity. There are many “good” people at places like ADISC but there are also many sickos, perverts, and the likes that harbor around this community because they know what it is and how to bend the rules to satisfy whatever need they want. That is why I highly disapprove of sites like ADISC and the likes of them and feel they really are a bad apple in the ABDL community.

Sites such as DailyDiapers are good wholesome communities that is specifically for ADULT babies and diaper lovers over the age of 18. They do not invite nor set up specific threads for underage people. DailyDiapers as a whole is great forum that has a lot of engaging people that are 95% of the age of 18 which is how its suppose to be!

The outside world does not understand what goes on in the ABDL community as well as someone like me or you. Which is precisely why the ABDL community as a whole should not give them any reason to misunderstand or interpret our community as what it is not. I know one thing is for sure and that is when I have kids one day, whether they wear diapers or not, I will never approve of them conversing in a chat room that contains adults when they are under the age of 18. I think it leaves a lot of open doors and is just wrong. The ABDL world is an ADULT world and while there are people under the age of 18 that are into the diaper thing – that area of things should not be promoted online in such a public chatroom open to anyone wanting to easily lie about their age to gain access to children. This is wrong.

I have always been a big supporter of the adult baby and diaper lover community and always will be. The first step in presenting ourselves to the outside world is to clean up the mess within our own “ranks” that does not give outsiders excuses to accuse the ABDL community as a whole of wrongdoings. While, this is no easy task, I think it is a focal point that should not be taken lightly if the ABDL community ever wants to take another step in acceptance on any level within the outside world.

This is just my two cents on the situation and while sites like ADISC are well moderated communities and active – I think ADISC presents a huge problem and are a sore eye for the ABDL community as a whole when they are actively harboring people that are under the age of 18 in their forums. If they would gear their site to over the age of 18 then their site would be fantastic but that is not the case and unfortunately I think it is just one of the many examples of the barriers and problems for the adult baby and diaper lover community of every getting past that horrible stigma to the public.

NOTE: While I understand people’s views may differ I do not want “trash” comments and I will not allow garbage and immature comments such as this which I just received:

“So you want over 18 sites where people can post hairy crotch shots or their miniature d*cks, or pick up chicks for diaper sex, or provide detailed instructions on how to make yourself incontinent so you’ll be pissing yourself happily ever after without control. I’m sure that is what this world needs!” (he also forgot to leave a fake email so some nice easy Google searches and I have a photo of him from a profile)

I thought about posting his photo just to prove a point but I won’t stoop to that level…Please refrain from immature comments AS WELL AS comments that you simply base off of here-say rather than fact.

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People in the ABDL community range from people who never talk about ABDL stuff to the openly and free people who let everyone know.  Everyone has their identification within the community and own way of representing themselves.  The thing about this logo is its UNIQUE, not completely obvious, represents for the most part our colors, designed well, and more.  If you are more discreet than a possible keychain, pin, or something along those lines is more fitting to you that is not very obvious but you at least feel you are showing some pride.  For the most non-discreet then maybe a bumper sticker, window sticker, t-shirt, or something along those lines.  There are tons of ways of showing your pride that don’t have to be blatant.  But, many say they could do without the diaper on it but then a symbol without any sort of relation to the diaper is not accurate in my opinion.  It is not completely obvious and can easily be explained away.  But, what binds the 99% of the ABDL community – DIAPERS.  Yeh, you have the little girls, little boys, daddies, mommies, diaper girls, diaper boys, and the list goes on.  But, think about it…what binds almost everyone of those subgroups together somehow – DIAPERS.  Regardless of how you spin it – diapers are the common interest and defining point in this community whether you are an AB or DL – diapers are the ultimate babyish item.

No logo or symbol is perfect – but I think this one comes decently close to being somewhat discreet but recognizable in the community.  On that note, myself and few of my ABDL friends will begin a way of promoting this symbol and hopefully the community slowly embraces it.  If not, then so be it…but we are going to give it a try.  It must start somewhere.

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As you can see it is like the shape of a flag.  It has the typical traditional colors of the adult baby and diaper lover community.  It basically translates into “I Love/Heart Diapers” if you couldn’t tell.  It has the “I” and then the diaper symbol is also in the shape of a heart.  I honestly really like the design and can see it catching on.  I can see myself with a sticker or something along those lines or maybe a keychain even.  I don’t know – I like it, personally.  I think the logo represents the adult baby and diaper lover community accurately for the most part but yet it is discreet enough that a stranger wouldn’t be able to look at it and tell exactly what it means or is.

I know there will be some who do not like it or criticize the attempt to make a symbol for the ABDL community but I think we really need one that people know about and can actually recognize and use.  Feedback is welcome and if all goes well then we can take the next steps in spreading it and building its recognition from there.

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