The ABDL Message and Outside View
The ABDL world is a complicated one and consists of people from all walks of life. Everyone from doctors, lawyers, construction workers, teachers, and the list goes on and on. I for one look at the adult baby and diaper lover world as an extremely unique community that is completely different than any other community. There is not really a community out there that enjoys doing things that are similar to the ABDL world that is harmless in its purest form but yet can bring so much joy. But, this world of ABDLs has in my mind given themselves a bad name in many aspects and really has brought more harm than good to the community.
The ABDL world is first looked at in a negative light and associated with kids unfortunately. An outsider looking in automatically is going to associate diapers with kids and while this is unfortunate, it is understandable. What is not understandable and unacceptable in my mind is those people who enhance this image by engaging in activities that will only further this view. While I understand there are always bad apples in any group, I don’t think it does us justice when there are a whole lot of “borderline” apples that engage in forums and chat alongside or with people that are under the age of 18. I think this is wrong and however innocent it may be in many cases, it is not in many other cases. Unfortunately sites such as ADISC, while providing a decent community, is filled with underage kids as well as teenbabies and adult diaper lovers and babies. This setup is a breeding ground for disaster but also is not a good look for the ABDL community. The site basically is an invitation to anyone with a computer and internet connection to come “innoncently” talk to underage people about diapers…this in my mind is wrong and breeds negativity. There are many “good” people at places like ADISC but there are also many sickos, perverts, and the likes that harbor around this community because they know what it is and how to bend the rules to satisfy whatever need they want. That is why I highly disapprove of sites like ADISC and the likes of them and feel they really are a bad apple in the ABDL community.
Sites such as DailyDiapers are good wholesome communities that is specifically for ADULT babies and diaper lovers over the age of 18. They do not invite nor set up specific threads for underage people. DailyDiapers as a whole is great forum that has a lot of engaging people that are 95% of the age of 18 which is how its suppose to be!
The outside world does not understand what goes on in the ABDL community as well as someone like me or you. Which is precisely why the ABDL community as a whole should not give them any reason to misunderstand or interpret our community as what it is not. I know one thing is for sure and that is when I have kids one day, whether they wear diapers or not, I will never approve of them conversing in a chat room that contains adults when they are under the age of 18. I think it leaves a lot of open doors and is just wrong. The ABDL world is an ADULT world and while there are people under the age of 18 that are into the diaper thing – that area of things should not be promoted online in such a public chatroom open to anyone wanting to easily lie about their age to gain access to children. This is wrong.
I have always been a big supporter of the adult baby and diaper lover community and always will be. The first step in presenting ourselves to the outside world is to clean up the mess within our own “ranks” that does not give outsiders excuses to accuse the ABDL community as a whole of wrongdoings. While, this is no easy task, I think it is a focal point that should not be taken lightly if the ABDL community ever wants to take another step in acceptance on any level within the outside world.
This is just my two cents on the situation and while sites like ADISC are well moderated communities and active – I think ADISC presents a huge problem and are a sore eye for the ABDL community as a whole when they are actively harboring people that are under the age of 18 in their forums. If they would gear their site to over the age of 18 then their site would be fantastic but that is not the case and unfortunately I think it is just one of the many examples of the barriers and problems for the adult baby and diaper lover community of every getting past that horrible stigma to the public.
NOTE: While I understand people’s views may differ I do not want “trash” comments and I will not allow garbage and immature comments such as this which I just received:
“So you want over 18 sites where people can post hairy crotch shots or their miniature d*cks, or pick up chicks for diaper sex, or provide detailed instructions on how to make yourself incontinent so you’ll be pissing yourself happily ever after without control. I’m sure that is what this world needs!” (he also forgot to leave a fake email so some nice easy Google searches and I have a photo of him from a profile)
I thought about posting his photo just to prove a point but I won’t stoop to that level…Please refrain from immature comments AS WELL AS comments that you simply base off of here-say rather than fact.
Exercise, Cooking, and Adult Diapers
I got back from exercising today and doing a little bit of yoga so by the time I got home I was absolutely starving. I headed straight for the kitchen and started making dinner…Peter took this photo of me in my yoga shorts cooking dinner. Don’t mind my huge thighs – working on that!
Anyways, I will tell you what – wearing diapers during yoga sure does help with a lot of the moves because it provides a little bit of a cushion when you forget your yoga mat like I do half the time. Plus, yoga is relaxing at the same time its still considered exercise so diapers help me relax I will say so its like an added bonus when doing yoga. As you can tell, the diaper is quite noticeable in this case because its a Bambino Diaper but usually I wear a little thinner diaper for yoga but I forgot to stick a thinner one in my gym bag so all I had was a Bambino. You get a few more stares with a thick diaper but I would say I am pretty use to it and most people really don’t care. Every once in awhile you get a question or two on what exactly is going on but you just explain the situation and I have actually had people say “Thats Awesome!!!” but I have also had people just be like “Oh, ok” so I mean it varies. Most importantly, when it comes to diapers you just have to be comfortable with yourself and confident. The more you give off that it is abnormal the more abnormal people are going to think of you as.
Back to cooking – so, most people don’t know this about me but I am a good cook. Peter absolutely loves when I cook for him. He was so hungry when I got back he didn’t even let me change my soaking wet diaper (hence the sag in the diaper a bit in the photo). So, I started right off making some pasta with mushrooms and scallops in it. It ended up not being the best in my opinion but he said he liked it which I guess is all that matters. Then, again he usually has a beer with his meal so alcohol makes a lot of things taste better I guess.
Diapered in the Snow
So, we finally got some snow in North Carolina. We never get snow in the central part of North Carolina, it can be so frustrating. I love snow so we went and built a snow man and took a walk. It was fun. It was nice because we both love just being outside so being outside in the snow was definitely a plus. Also, wearing a diaper in the snow keeps you way warmer as well. We both had on a Bambino Classico while we were bundled up in the snow, so we were super warm.
I am sure for those people up in the northern part of the United States snow is like an everyday thing but for us Southerners (hehe) its like heaven. It shuts everything down, and we just like to stare at it. Its great! I gotta admit there is something about wearing a nice thick diaper and then sitting down in the snow. It feels so padded, its great. You feel so secure and protected. I guess you go back to that feeling of being a kid again because of the days you would get off from school when it snowed and you would just go play around in the snow with your friends. It brings back memories of being younger plus also wearing a nice thick diaper just adds to that great feeling of being a kid, which we all love going back to some time.
Anyways, after awhile of playing in the snow we came in and had some hot chocolate and watched some sports and movies. Pretty laid back weekend overall, but a very enjoyable one. Anyone else in the snow hits areas do anything fun in diapers over the weekend?
Wearing Diapers to the Gym
So, I recently joined a local gym and I am trying to make it a habit to go almost everyday. After work, I always head straight to the gym so I don’t have an excuse not to go if I go home first. So, typically by the end of the day my Bambino Diaper is soaked and I end up having to change it in the locker room at the gym before heading to workout. I am courteous and change my diaper in the stalls and not out in the open as that would be a little too much I think. But, I typically either way spandex shorts or pants as it really helps to reduce any sort of chaffing while running or working out when wearing a diaper. I usually wear a Secure Plus while working out because it is not super thick but still provides the great absorbency in case I have an accident. I will tell you what though, those spandex shorts make you really feel like your not wearing a diaper though because they are so tight – very comfortable though.
I usually will run and then bike for awhile and then head to do some free-weights. I always feel funny doing free weights with all the guys staring at me like “what is a girl doing in the free weight section”. I don’t know, I guess I just need to get over it. I mean, I guess you may be able to tell I am wearing a diaper but I would say you would need to be looking for it…its not super obvious. So, I really do hope that men don’t stare that bad and that hard especially in a public weight room.
I usually finish up with stretching for about 15-20 minutes because I am super not flexible so I am trying to work on that a lot. I will say there is a nice little feeling in my stomach when I am stretching or bending over and my diaper pokes out a little bit, not too much, but enough so someone could tell if they were paying attention. As long as I have worn diapers, I still get that little rush knowing someone knows I am wearing a diaper. Its the craziest thing…maybe its just me. Any how, back to cleaning up my mess of a place that looks like a hurricane hit it!
Secure Plus Diaper Review
The Secure Plus diaper is a diaper put out by Secure Personal Care and is probably one of the best mid-level adult diapers on the market. Plus, the all new Secure Plus diaper has a super cute design on the front of it that I absolutely love. I will show the photos first before I get into my review of the Secure Plus diapers.
Absorbency: The absorbency of the Secure Plus is surprisingly really good. Though it does not compare to the absorbency of Secure Personal Care’s Secure X-Plus diaper (their premium and best adult diaper), the absorbency is still one of the best for a mid-level diaper. I was able to wet it 2 full times and then I felt like I had to change…no leaks! It probably could have held a little bit more but that is pretty good for a mid-level adult diaper. Other adult diapers to compare it to are Attends and Tena which I think Secure Plus beats both of these easily in the absorbency department.
Design: The design of the Secure Plus diaper, especially the new one, is great. It is super cute and I really like the cute little hearts on the front. The fit of the Secure Plus is very secure and fits great. I feel very protected at all angles of the diaper. The plastic is SUPER SOFT, and I love the crinkle this diaper makes. Very soft plastic which is great for a lot of reasons, one being is that it will REDUCE chaffing on the skin!
Features: The features of the Secure Plus diaper are really quite amazing. They feature a re-taping frontal landing zone to allow adjusting the diaper in case it needs the adjustment once put on. Also, it has standing leg cuffs which is one of the best features ever created for a diaper. It also has leg gathers to further prevent leaking. These features rarely come with any other mid-level diaper which I think is what sets the Secure Plus diaper apart from a lot of other adult diapers.
Price: The price of the Secure Plus diapers are one of the better buys you can get out there for a mid-range adult diaper. The features that come with this diaper plus overall quality and absorbency are phenomenal and especially for the price. Plus, they offer Free Shipping with every order no matter what which is very nice!
Overall: I was super impressed with the Secure Plus diaper and will definitely keep a steady stock of these diapers in for when I don’t want to have a super thick diaper on but rather feel like a semi-thick and very good absorbent diaper. The absorbency was quite impressive to me and very good compared to other diapers similar to it. I would highly recommend many of you try them especially with the new cute designs.
Buy Them Here: Secure Personal Care (Go to Briefs and then Secure Plus, be sure to check out their other products which also may suit your needs)
New Outlook and Promise
With the New Year and finally a cleaner blog design that I can be satisfied with – I have made a New Years resolution to post everyday at least something on this blog. Some days the posts will be really good and some days they may just me minor updates and happenings but I want to bring this blog back to the regularity that it once had. That is not to say I won’t miss a few days but I vow to increase the regularity. Sometimes ideas are hard to come by and I have writers block lol. I am always open for suggestions on what people would like to hear and learn about so please if you have some share them and I will address them as soon as possible. In an effort to also clean up this blog I will be going through a lot of my posts and certain parts of the site and modifying it to make it look a little cleaner and better whether that is removing or adding stuff. So, definitely be on the lookout for more photos. A review of the NEW Secure Plus with pictures and all is on the agenda and will be up in the next 24-48 hours.
The Importance of Using Boosters in Adult Diapers
Boosters are often looked over when considering things to buy when you are either forced to wear diapers or just enjoy wearing diapers for the fun of it. But, boosters can provide a lot of benefit for both groups of people if the correct booster is chosen. The design of a booster is simple but the effect a booster can have is immense. They can take an ordinary diaper and make it super absorbent or they can give you that extra padding that so many people love the feeling of.
An adult diaper is designed to only hold a certain amount of liquid and that amount of liquid varies highly across all the diaper brands. Some adult diapers can barely manage to hold one wetting before they leak while others such as the premier Bambino Diapers, Secure X-Plus, or Abena can hold multiple wettings. For those people who depend on adult diapers to keep them from leaking and want to save a little money in the long run, boosters are for you. A booster, if chosen properly, can take ANY diaper and make it last twice or three times as long if used properly. In the end, this adds to the life of the diaper and thus giving you an extension of time before one needs to change their diaper.
Many people, especially adult babies and diaper lovers, love the feeling of extra padding, especially if that padding is in the butt/seat area of the diaper. If you like that feeling, a booster is definitely the answer because it provides instant padding that not only increases absorbency of the diaper but also gives you that nice padded feeling in the seat region of the diaper that many people love.
Choosing a booster for an adult diaper can actually be quite meticulous and should be chosen with care. There are some boosters out there that are fairly absorbent but are super uncomfortable. Watch out for those because though they will provide you with added absorbency BUT, they can cause chaffing issues in that region and discomfort which nobody wants. Here are my recommendations for the best boosters you can buy:
1. Bambino Quadro: This booster is the top-dog of all boosters. It is extremely helpful in preventing people who leak from the sides while sleeping or out of the back of their diaper. This booster completely stops all that. It is the best booster money can buy. Plus, this booster is made with a special material to give it a super soft feeling that most diapers can’t even compare to.
2. Bambino Duo: This booster is probably the second best booster on the market. It can absorb more than 90% of diapers on the market can by themselves so you can imagine sticking one of these booster in your diaper and how long you can last. Plus, they are also made with Bambino’s super soft material so there is NO chaffing or discomfort.
3. Tranquility Topliner Booster Pad: This booster is a very well designed booster with a good absorbency that is one of the better ones on the market. Because the material is not as soft as the two above and the absorbency is significantly less…this gets the #3 spot but it is still a good booster to use.
4. Depend Boost Inserts: These are the most popular just because they are the most well known because they are in most grocery stores. The only reason they are on this list is because they are actually decent feeling as far as the material but the absorbency is not very good. If you are looking for really good absorbency, I would go with another booster such as the Bambino Quadro or Duo.
There you have it…those are my choices of my favorite boosters that I have used. I have both the Bambino Quadro and Duo taking up at least one whole decent size shelf and a few extra packs in storage. That is how important I find boosters. They not only save me money but also they can allow you to go a lot longer in between diaper changes especially if you get one of the better boosters.
Patting A Diapered Butt
You are probably looking at the title of this post and thinking, “Well that is a strange title”. But, I wanted to discuss a feeling that I think many adult babies and diaper lovers can relate to. When I have a diaper on, I absolutely love when Peter will come up behind me when I am just standing there or if I am laying down and just pat the seat/bottom of my diaper. An action that is in essence so simple sends a rush of feelings to my head and I just love it. I know he likes it when I do it to him too. I think it is a feeling of security and safeness that makes me like it so much. But, I will admit I like the crinkle sound when he pats my butt…I know…I’m strange. But, I know there have got to be other people out there that love that feeling and the crinkle sound it makes when someone pats their diapered butt.
I think there are a lot of small things with diapers that I like. Of course, there are the big things that I enjoy but I think the small things with diapers are really what make the feeling of wearing diapers even more special to me. Not many others things can not only relax me but also make me feel happy at the same time. I mean there are other things of course, but not as many as you would think. I know, random post, but this was something I got to thinking about and noticed every time it happened and how I felt so I wanted to see if others had the same feeling or had other small things that they really loved about wearing diapers?
