Doubting Women in the Adult Baby and Diaper Lover World
The title of this post was quite hard to come up with in expressing what this post is about. But, I wanted to talk about women in the adult baby and diaper lover community.
The reality of the internet is that there will always be guys posing as women on the internet no matter what community you are associated with. But, it really is unfortunate for the ABDL community because the fact is that there are a lot of women into the adult baby and diaper lover topic but are either scared off from the community or completely blasted because they don’t reveal their whole life to a male or even another female right off the bat. I understand the skepticism when it comes to making sure it is a woman on the other end but on some level there should be an understanding of trust and gradual progression.
The reality is that most people in this community will start talking to a girl in the ABDL community and almost immediately start asking them for photos, videos, etc. Which, some girls don’t have problems with that and some do and the level of photo “showage” will vary between girls. Some will show their face and some will show just their lower half or whatever. But, the first thing wrong here is that guys start out with these questions first before even getting into any sort of meaningful conversation. Its almost like some men are just after photos of women in diapers just to please themselves (not all guys mind you); When most girls are just looking for conversation and true friends online.
Some people have no problem being completely open in the adult baby and diaper lover community but some don’t and would prefer using only bits and pieces of their true life in order to remain somewhat anonymous. This is where understanding comes into play. Girls and even some guys would be more apt to share more if people would be more conversative and understanding rather than so forward and aggressive.
I will probably regret this later but I will share my experience…Me being a incontinent girl that wears diapers all day, everyday, really enjoys the ABDL community and loves engaging in conversations that are meaningful and would love to meet people that are actually semi-intelligent and have lives that don’t revolve around everything diaper related. Of course, in the beginning, I was unsure of the ABDL community when I first got involved and I was not very forward with anything and I didn’t reveal much about myself besides being a girl. I tried to protect myself by remaining anonymous in the terms of not using my real name. But, as I got more comfortable I started sharing more and realizing the community can be an awesome place. I started slowly feeling more comfortable revealing things about myself and giving more and more. Eventually, starting I Heart Diapers, and I became even more comfortable revealing things within limits. I give as much true factual information about myself to the point where I feel comfortable knowing I can remain semi-anonymous so that it would not affect my career/life outside of the adult baby and diaper lover world. I am active in the community, I have dozens of photos all through out my blog showing basically everything except my facial features. I mean, with all of that, even so much as showing my boobs area and such – people still to this day question that I am a girl, LOL. Its almost laughable at this point and you learn to ignore it. I mean I get crucified by some people in this community because I don’t show my face…I mean get over yourself…not all of us are in that position in our lives to risk everything by flaunting your face in front of everyone in association with the ABDL community.
Unfortunately, all the suspicion has caused girls to barely even be able to talk to other girls because of the doubt that exists and is present in the community because there is always this “doubt”. Unless you are willing to shake your bum on webcam or take a photo with your face smiling with a big wet diaper and a handwritten sign saying “This is so and so…” then there is not much trust unfortunately and any sort of relationship outside of fantasy land is basically not possible because the relationship online can’t get past that barrier because no one wants to participate in the conversation unless what I said happens first.
People in the adult baby and diaper lover community just need to recognize that at least with me – I will always be somewhat shielded because I have a successful life outside of the ABDL community and I protect that. I will divulge more and what not if I actually were to meet you or have a good friendship.
To make a long story short and to sum up – understand is that there are tons of women in the diaper community and they aren’t going to be as open as you want them to be at first with you. Just like on a first date, things are awkward and unsure, and you just have to give the person the benefit of the doubt and not act accusatory to them otherwise there will be no hope in any sort of meaningful relationship.
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Adrain Could you send me a email answer please that If you do not mind.
Adian I know what you are meaning I thank it is just nice to communicate with others that have the same issue or if they like to express to others what works best and could be recomended for use for others through statment and personal testomony,
I thank you hit the nail on the head on your statment, As I have in the past have talked nothing more than about the product Itself that we believe in I perfer to have respectfull conversation than to talk dirty online and to represent to others what your web is about I hope all is well.
You and Peter take care.
P.S. I hope this gives you some since of respect.
people that are semi-intelgint and that lives and dreams that dont revolve around diapers… sounds about right
i actually had dreams of being a famous auther (with NOTHING diaper related in it) the diaper part was always really sorta private and i didn’t start wearing every now and then till i got into college (last year)
As of right now, i haven’t done much with my stories but i hope to get back into writing after things die down a bit with this whole learning thing lol. im majoring in Radiology Technology (x-ray)
actually… lol i just got a new idea for a creature/monster/chapter in the first book… i must leave, im off to go write (^_^)
It’s true that there are alot of horny guys just looking to get sexual gradification but some of us are just looking for friends to talk with and people who actually understand where we are coming from
Adrain When did you start to be come incontent? I have a little bit my self.
i understand how you feel i am a guy a big baby , been looking for a mommy / slash wife. for many years now, i know women my age are very rare, and to think one would want a nice shy overweight big baby is like winning lottery.i have joined a few what i would call adult baby places, in hope of meeting a nice women, and over the years had throught i had met a few, not in person , but online, now here where i feel folish.they latter turned out to be guys, my face was red then, and you know i was hurt, and mad.so yes i agree with you that we should be who we are, people get hurt by lies, and in this baby world, i guess we are kind of desprete.so if ever some one wishes to chat let me know at bigbabyneedsamommy@yahoo.com all i ask is be respectfull,and be who you are .thank you
It’s time those boys – and they are boys – grew up and realilsed what the word girls means. And yes, I like Adult Baby and Diaper Lover. The word is nappy, by the way – oh, and I’m a girl and have trans girls – friends – who were gay and never had ‘issues’. More girls please and less doubt of women who are Adult Babies, nappy or not.
I would love to have a baby girl to care for complety . Even a baby siter when dadys at work . i can make this happen lets chat
I think that its funny that some of the replies to this post missed the topic completly. I have shied away from these sites because people (guys) are really only looking to try to fullfill thier fantasies. Maybe a few will get lucky, I really cant say. I am just lookibg for a site to chat with people of like mind and I can be myself without judging.
It is awkward…I’m just crazy embarrassed. I would never let any of my friends or family know. I would love to show off myself through pics on the internet but never my face. Neck down maybe. Plus I can’t really afford diapers (being a college freshman is expensive! -_-). But I really didn’t know guys wanted to see that. I thought it was weird for a girl to like that, and that mostly guys were into wearing diapers.
Well put Adrian. My wife is and has always been female. No offense to the transexuals and Sissys, but I seem almost more of them online listed as women than women like her and you. She wears diapers all the time and enjoys the AB lifestyle when she can. She also has a responsible job with infants and has been investigated to hold that position. I also wear diapers all the time, have a professional job and interests that include music, distance running, SCUBA diving, home repair and upgrades as well as working on cars. I do what I can to welcome girls to the community and hope that others start doing the same. Until more women sign on, the statistics will show that this community is as male dominated as my wife’s quilting forum is female dominated.
I agree the honesty factor in not only the ab/dl cummunity is lacking but in all fetish areas. Finding sites and people online to get ideas and share thoughts is hard. While I may be dressed at times as a woman or a sissy little girl I always admit to being a male for this truth is what makes me what i am. What pic’s i share do not include face and to be honest none of my sissy pics have hit the net yet as both myself and my domme girlfreand worry about affecting our regular lives. on a side note does anyone have realistic puplic outing ideas or experiences that are not complete over the top fantasy?