Telling Others You Wear Diapers
One of the biggest obstacles people have is telling others they either enjoy wearing diapers or have to wear diapers. Both, in my opinion should be approached in the same way and in the same context. Many people ask me “what do I say” and “how I should say it”. The first thing I tell them is to be confident and don’t come across if you are doing something wrong because then that just is a bad start. So, be confident and don’t come across to the person as if you had just robbed a store or something.
Second, never just tell the person flat out that you enjoy and love wearing diapers. Don’t put it like that. Whether you you need diapers or enjoy them – the conversation should start out in the context of being for a medical issue. So, basically if you don’t need them then you will be telling a minor fib or slight exaggeration. This may come across as morally wrong to a few people and I understand that but it is also morally wrong for others to judge you. Anyways, just say something along the lines of “I have a minor medical issue that requires me to wear a diaper at certain points of the day for added protection and it provides a sense of security for me”…obviously this statement needs to be tailored and “flowered” up to the person you are talking to but that is a good base to use. Don’t come across like some obsessive and crazy person that just loves diapers with no reason other than it feels good because 9 out of 10 times the person will associate it immediately in negative light. You want to provide the justification and reasons up front so that they do not assume and make their own conclusions. You start out slow with the person and ease them into the explanation. Don’t say “I love diapers because they make me feel good” – that will probably not get you too far in many cases. Come off as nervous but confident and make sure that you tell the person that you trust them and think a lot of them to share something like this with them. It makes that person feel responsible and almost at first proud that someone can trust them…it puts the ball in their court rather than yours.
The main thing I tell people is to have your reasons and justifications laid out up front and to make sure those reasons are not just that you like them. Start out with that it originated from a medical issue and then go from there. Use words like “security”, “comfort”, “de-stress”, and “calms me down” because these words are neutral and non-aggressive words that will make what you are telling them easier and put it in a more positive light. A lot of what you say and how you say it has to be tailored and catered to that person though based on what type of person they are.
Note: If you are truly interested in coming out or telling someone then I will and am open to help walk you through it. I have a lot of experience with it. But, don’t contact me for help if you are not going to do it and aren’t serious about it. I am more than willing to take the time to help you but just make sure you are serious about it.
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well I guess it really depends on who it is your telling, I told two of my best friends about all this a few years ago and of course they where curious and had questions and sometimes still do, but they are my best friends and I trust them and I know they wont judge, so when telling someone do make sure its someone you would trust and who you know would be understanding and open minded
I am also incontinent and enjoy diapers. All my friends and family know I wear diapers for medical reasons but they dont know I enjoy them at least I dont think so. But I would like to tell them. How ever I have told them about having them on for security and they under stand . What are your thoughts?
Those are great tips and they work! That is how I approached it with my girlfriend and now wife. After the initial ’shock’ you can tell them that wearing just gives a comfortable feeling. Ease them into it and see what develops.
Yeah, it really depends on who you’re telling. I told a good friend of mine, who also happens to be my pastor. You’d think that would be nerve-wracking, but I just knew she’d be all right with it, so I just told her that it was a combination of a comfort thing, a subculture, and a fetish. She kind of makes fun of me now, but in a good-hearted way.
She will occasionally use the word “depends” at the pulpit and glance over to see if I react.
You know, I have found it is very similar to coming out as LGBT. But NOT telling tends to lead to more stress. Now I am SO glad I told my friends. They have been nothing but a bundle of support for me!! They all tend to tell me that A) Diapers are very important for me B) I must not wear adult diapers, but only baby diapers. I am SO much happier now that my friends support me. Every night when I diaper myself with my japanese gauze diapers (which I bought in the baby department) I play with my bunnies and smile so big, my face is often sore the next day!!
I am still a little nervous about telling anyone. I kind of feel I shouldn’t enjoy wearing diapers as I have no medical reason to wear them. I do enjoy the feel of a dipaer and the freedom it allows. Am I wrong to enjoy them with no reason to wear them?
I don’t agree with this post – honesty has been a great policy for me. The past three girlfriends I’ve shared this with have been fine with it and happy to indulge me. One wasn’t keen on it herself, another wasn’t too bothered either way but enjoy indulging me. The third has actually started to show an interest and actively enjoys the diaper play.
I don’t feel the need to share this fetish with my friends – why share your sex life with your friends? It’s a private thing between myself and my partners, not friends.
I couldn’t recommend the route of pretending it’s a medical issue, it’s dishonest and misleading and I don’t see what good will come of it.
Try not to worry too much – it’s really not a big deal and if you’re comfortable with it and yourself, then the people who care about you too will be also.
NappyBoyUK: One thing to keep in mind is that I don’t associate diapers with “sex life”. Your assuming I am referring or associating this with a sexual connotation, which I am not. All I am saying is people look at things differently…don’t just assume and make an incorrect judgment that I want people to flaunt their sexual fetish around.
I have read a lot of the posts on this ite and a lot of mention of buying your adult diapers at the nearest pharmacy or store. I think this must be soething that only happens in America as I have looked around and the nearest you can get to a diaper is Tena Lady slip ons for weak bladders. I have always had to buy over the internet which costs that bit mor as you have to pay for the postage and packing. Does anyone know of over the counter sales in England or Scotland as I live in both countries at the moment.
I have found, over the years of diapering, that not telling someone of your wearing causes more self-induced stress than is necessary. I have always, since a young age (6 or so)had the compelling need to wear diapers. Could be I din’t like the wet bed or pants during ‘accidents’. But my mom, though tired of the cleaning up, instead of offering to use diapers for protection threatened to use them, putting a very negative, demeaning atmosphere about wearing diapers. I still did it, but couldn’t bring myself to let anyone know (mom did find a pair of plastic pants in my room once, but just shook her head and looked at me funny)and grew up being very secretive and nervous about using them. My ex-wife was pretty cooperative about it when I told her, right from the time we met, but a few years later completely rejected the whole subject and said she couldn’t respect me any longer if I kept wearing them. Again the rejection thing. So, now living on my own, I wear them as I please/need and go about my business. I suppose if she ever asks if I’m wearing again, I’ll tell her yes, and let it ride. I t was her decision to pack it in, so… The bottom line is, I believe, that if one decides to reveal their use of diapers to someone, the wearer simply needs to be prepared for other person not being open-minded enough to accept it. But, keeping it a secret can be self-destructive at the same time.
I have worn Nappies for the past 40 year and still enjoy it as much now as when I first started I have been married three times the first two broke down because I would not stop wearing them but the third is great I wear them 24/7 and she fully understands.
I like to wear diapers I am 19 I wear them 24/7 my mom was out one day then when she came I did not hear her come in I was in my bedroom and she saw me. she now goes out and buys them for me she won’t let me wear underwear any more. then ond day In was out side and the lady next store to us saw me in just my diaper I ran in the house but it was to late she caught me and changed me. then she took my picture and said that if I don’t let her change me she will put it online so I let her change me she is 24 years old and I love it
Adrian, could you help me out with telling my friend? She is an open minded person, my friend for 5 years. I trust her a lot and I just want to tell her. Could you help me???
It’s always difficult knowing what to say to people about you wearing diapers. Even with those you know and trust, I always feel like I’ve got something in my mouth and I’m always trying to get it out “spit it out”, but it won’t come out, and we both end up frustrated as hell because I want to say something important, and the person I’m trying to tell wants to understand what I’m saying. I know, I’ve been there. I always end up feeling like an idiot. I’m more than open to suggestions you might have.
i wear nappies mi self personly i think there good there padded there comfy …………..
I told my wife and friends that, when I was little, I had a week bladder (true still) and sometimes was put into diapers for long trips and when we stayed at someone house over night. And, for some reason I liked it and though I don’t really need them, I never grew out of it and still like wearing them. It makes me feel relaxed to wear one after a stressed day. So I put on a diaper instead of having a beer.
Everyone I have told that to, has been ok with it.
Recently though, I have really gotten involved in my church. I am actually the media pastor and have been feeling guilty about the “fetish” part of it because it is linked to sexual gratification as well as for stress relief. I’m really am confused.